If I ever write a book...

I have absolutely no desire to write a book, let's just throw that out there. I like blogging but I don't think I like writing enough to write more than a page or two. In college I always struggled with writing papers that were more than four or five pages because I didn't feel like I had anything else to say. I can usually get my point across in fewer words as opposed to many. People who write books dumbfound me. How can you possible have that many words in your head? I just don't have that much to say... about anything. At least that's what I think. Maybe it's the fact that those words come over a span of months and even years, I don't know.  More power to you all the authors out there. Keep on writing! 

Any who, I had this idea yesterday that I liked so much I had to write it down so I wouldn't forget it. It was like a title for a book popped into my head. The title is "She Thinks The Same Way You Do" with a subtitle of {uncovering insecurity and embracing relationships} by Courtney Laib. Haha. I just added the "by" part, just now:) It just makes it sound more official doesn't it? 

This idea didn't just come out of thin air, though. It's something I've been thinking about for a while now. In the last couple of years I have developed some really great friendships with some women that I adore. There was an imbalance in my life and I needed more community to lean on. Through these relationships I've learned that women are insecure. All of us. I know this isn't a surprise to anyone but when you only maintain surface-y relationships all you ever see of a person is their "good side". For some reason we as women almost always assume that the people around us have it all together.... their marriages, their families, their emotions, their passions and dreams, and we are the only ones who don't. Am I the only one who falls into this? And then when I actually sit down and talk with someone and hear about what their life is really like, I realize that they are just as insecure and uncertain as I am. How refreshing. Not that they have insecurities, necessarily, but that they are just like me. A work in progress.

I think sometimes when we are wallowing in our own insecurities we are afraid to embrace relationships because we're afraid of what people might think of us. We're afraid they won't like us, or they'll think we're weird, or they'll think our life is too messy, or that we're not fun to hang out with. These fears keep us from having deep and meaningful relationships the way God intended. 

I was having a conversation with someone the other day and they were asking about a certain situation in the past that could cause me to be afraid to make the same move again for fear of being rejected a second time. I responded, that of course I was nervous but fear shouldn't keep us from continuing to take risks in life. A life free of risk is a very boring one. And the same applies in relationships. If we don't risk our own comfort to dive into people's lives and let them dive into ours, our relationships, if we even have any, will be very boring. 

So, back to the book. I think I just wrote it actually. Haha. Maybe more thoughts on this topic will develop but for now that's whats been going on in my head. 

Thanks for listening. 



  1. Bryan and I were recently talking about it too... how often women feel awkward around other women but they have the same insecurities and issues... how we always expect the other woman to be stronger and be able to reach out but instead drown in awkwardness because that other woman is hoping for me to reach out to her...

    and you never know about the book... you can start creating tags in your posts and in a couple of years just putting all blog posts together and "book-ifying" them might produce something that will become a blessing to many... who knows :)

    1. how ironic that you and Bryan were just talking about this same thing. and it's so true, what you said... we are usually waiting for someone to initiate the relationship and all the while that same person is waiting on us. good words:)

  2. Love the idea! You go, girl! The last year has certainly taught me the importance of having my best girlfriends there to walk with me through life, whatever it brings.